Nagging spouses are nothing new and certainly no wives from any particular nation have exclusively cornered the market.
There are nagging husbands too, but not as far as a particular group of Indian husbands are concerned. They are demanding that the local government create a male protection society to address their grievances.
The men have claimed that they have had enough torment from their spouses and they marched through the streets of the northern city of Lucknow dressed as grooms and demanding a National Commission For Men.
“We are asking for equal rights. We want somebody to listen to the grievances of men,” said Subhash Dube, a medical doctor who described himself as a victimized husband.
There is a penal code that is meant to protect women against their husbands, which is well and good, but statistics show an abuse of this section pertaining to dowry issues.
“Demands to amend this law have been put forward a lot of times. Therefore, we oppose this law”, says Indu Pandey, president of the All India Welfare Committee for Husbands.
This is a moot point because traditionally if an Indian groom and his family are unhappy with the bride’s dowry, the wife is often physically and emotionally abused; hence the reason for this penal code. The dowry refers to the money, goods, or estate that a wife brings to her husband at the time of the marriage.
Although the practice of dowries was banned in 1961, it exists to this day. Indian police receive hundreds of complaints related to dowry issues every day from women, and when there is a suspicious death of a recently married woman, they are required to investigate it as a possible “dowry death.”
So the tables have turned and the men don’t like it. Most of the misuse of the law regarding women concerns the registering of false claims of harassment by their husbands or their families about not having paid enough in terms of jewelry, cash or other assets.
Although time will tell about this law and its fairness and magnitude to Indian men and women, a truck driver in China named Zhou found another way to deal with his wife’s nagging. He jumped off a ferryboat with his hands over his ears into the Yangtze River in an attempt to escape.
He swam the dangerous two kilometers to shore where he was found. “I felt I was dying, but even that’s better than my wife’s nagging,” he said.
Nagging is not limited to one sex or another, but these two extreme examples tell a tale of what can happen when humans are pushed too far. Is there a lesson here?